What do you always forget? For me, it’s my house keys.
Like a lot of badass entrepreneurs I normally run out the door with both hands full and stretched for time to try and beat traffic congestion and get to the office at a respectable hour. And by ‘respectable’ I mean before the members of my team who I’ve authorised to start later eventually get in.
It might be some weird, out-of-proportion expectation that I impose on myself, but unless I have meetings first-thing then I don’t believe it’s a good look for the boss to get in last!
As I run out the door I’m normally doing a mental to-do list check of a shitonne of things and it’s right. when. the. fucking door. closes. that I realise I’ve forgotten to get my keys. I’ve tried everything to trick myself into remembering them AND to mitigate me forgetting them.
I have spares stashed with a neighbour, my landlord lives nearby and he has a set, my sister two suburbs over has one and I have a spare that I’ve yet to stash outside somewhere (kicks self in arse for not doing that yesterday as planned). Problem with that plan I’ve realised is that 7/ 10 I lock myself out during business hours and everyone is miles away at their respective day jobs, like where I should fucking be.
My last resort is to walk a couple of blocks, catch a tram, then walk a few more blocks to my property manager. This plan only works if I’ve locked myself out with my wallet as I need money and ID for this solution – gah!
I ALWAYS lock myself out when I don’t have the time to AND when I have too many things I am juggling to think about or shit to get done. So as I was making my way to get keys this morning I gave myself a stern talking to and reframed my take on the situation. It’s important to do this, because let’s face it, I will most likely find myself in it again!
When you forget something major, or make a really bad mistake it’s easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk, and keep that shit up long enough and you’re setting yourself up for low self-esteem.
Seeing as it’s Mental Health week, keep these top tips in mind for the next time you mess up and think of busting out the mean-girl talk:
1. Calm the fuck down – it’s happened, you can’t pretend it didn’t. Accept it and work to fix it.
2. Apologise – to yourself, to the affected parties, to the Universe if you need to! Saying sorry is the art of accepting responsibility for your actions. Get ready to move on with the fixing.
3. Slow down – my mind races, full-on panics and then I start berating myself at my own stupidity (feeding my inner mean girl) and it’s a downward spiral from there. But I’ve found the sooner I can cut those thoughts dead in their tracks and just think what I did last time to fix this I transition from victim to badass.
4. Call a friend – sometimes just talking it out makes you feel a bit better, and often in the time it takes for the conversation you’ve already worked out the best course of action. I called my neighbour and discovered they weren’t at home while remembering I could just go to the Real Estate for spare keys. I had no car keys and not enough cash on me for a taxi, but I had 2 legs that could get me to a tram. And so I moonwalked out of the fucking disaster I was in.
5. Get on with it – I made my way to the tram and decided to enjoy the walk and take in the view of all the little things you can’t notice when driving. I found 6 new tiny cafes that I want to come back and try – WIN!
6. Plan ahead – I’m currently sitting in one of said cafes having a coffee and calming the fuck down some more. Just to make sure I’m still not super pissed off with myself and then rush out and have an accident because my mind is still a hot mess. I have a special kind of endearing clumsiness like that.
BONUS TIP – whenever I do something that really pisses my higher self off, I try to make sure I reflect on what the lesson is that I’m supposed to learn. This time, my take on it is that as soon as I get home I’m stashing that overdue key outside and reframing my to-do list down to 1-2 things I KNOW I can knock over today. This will calm my mind even more, and that’s a double win.
You gotta answer me this in the comments so I know I’m not alone here:
What do you always forget or muck up? How do you ‘fix’ it so you don’t go into meltdown mode?
Right, I gotta go do my thing and then return these spare keys…
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